Halloween is a good time to take a look at your fears, which may be blocking your path to health, happiness, success, love, and friendship.
First of all, everybody has fears and it’s absolutely normal, but if it’s disrupting your daily functioning or preventing you from living your life to the fullest, it’s time to face your fears and take control. Many people live their whole life in denial, terror, and misery. So, don’t let fears rob you and your loved ones of all the joy and freedom you deserve. This year, be one who faces fears with courage and set yourself free from all demons that are holding you back.
The good news is that it’s not as scary as you think and you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some simple steps to get you started.
Identify Your Fears
Take some time to jot down your fears and in the order of importance.
You have to identify your fears first so you can tackle them effectively. Try to write down just one or two fears at the most that is debilitating your life currently.
Acknowledge Your Fears
Even though many people have fears, they have trouble acknowledging them.
Take a look at your fear and acknowledge them. Say it out loud. “I am afraid of public speaking.” When you acknowledge your fear, you are starting to recognize and take control of your fears, instead of the other way around.
Face Your Fears in Baby Steps
Break down your fear into small pieces and take small steps. For example, if you’re afraid of spiders, start by looking at a picture of just one spider for a few seconds. Next time, you can increase the numbers of spiders and for a longer period of time, and go from there. This also works well with people.
Change Your Perspective of the Fear
You may not be able to overcome your fear right now, but looking at it from a different perspective can help ease the trauma. For example, you can read that most spiders are not dangerous and are not out to attack people. Very few people die from spider bites and are from remote places in the world. They are actually beneficial animals that kill harmful bugs, which help with our survival, etc. Not seeing something or someone as a threat can reduce anxiety greatly.
Have Resources Available
Have a prepared action plan when your fears occur. For example, have a list of places you can go, people you can contact, and things you can do right away when you encounter your fear. I wrote my action plans on a piece of paper and carry them with me in my wallet.
Remember that it’s normal to have fears and you can overcome and/or manage them. Not all fears have to be conquered or eliminated. This is a lot to expect and can cause more anxiety. Sometimes your fears can be turned into an alley, just by how you choose to see it.
If your fears are serious, I would strongly recommend working with a professional in a safe and confidential environment, which can help you manage your fears with various methods that are available to help you for long terms results.
Remember, you already have the courage to face your fears, always. The choice is yours. You can do it!